Tuesday, November 9, 2010

And they lived 'Satisfied' ever after!

There are no happy stories. Only illusions. What if you found out Cinderella's Prince cheated on her with one of her step sisters? What if the Little Mermaid missed her life under sea so much that she was always unhappy despite marrying the love of her life and living on land, as she always wanted? Would these stories really end with 'And they lived happily ever after'?

I see people wanting to get laid. Unsatisfied in their marital sex lives. Sexual flings with colleagues/clients/bosses. Insecurity in relationships. Men and Women walking into hotels seperately, meeting in the same room. Leaving seperately at the gap of 10-15 minutes. People from the world thronging porn sites, releasing themselves in front of screens with men and women mating, you have no clue about. Mating with men and women you just met at the bar or the dance floor. Thronging sex chat sites, jerking off to some Miss sluttypussy or fingering for some Mr. BigBlackCock. All for, sexual pleasures and satisfaction. But, is there any, really?

I log onto sex chat sites, for the fun of it. There is some stupid fun in seeing people pinging you 'Ill tear your husband's favorite thongs and pound that wet smooth pussy.' It is hilarious, really. Like, you have no clue who I am, I could tell you I am some Blondie from Amsterdam, who is married and fantasizes her son and you would have a hard on. Like, really? Are you serious when you say you want me to roleplay your daughter's friend on chat? Hah. Its funny. I have never gone beyond these two lines on any of these sites. They make for a hilarious time killer and an interesting study too.

Thousands of lonely horny people, who want to get on top of you (men and women) just for releasing themselves. It is sad. It is weird when I hear of married couples cheating on their spouses. When I see friends having sex with their bosses for 'fun'. When I see men and women amidst a large group yet sharing this immense sexual tension. Trying so hard to seduce the other. Flirting with each other. The world is at it every second. Amelia had a good curiosity, how many people in this world are having an orgasm as I type this? We are sometimes worst than animals who are so desperately looking for sex. More than companionship, we are looking for some 'action', yet crying ourselves to sleep cause the bed is just full of your mess and cushions, but no arm to embrace you, no lips to kiss your forehead while you are asleep. Its funny to me. Its something I dont understand, yet am a part of it, in some ways.

I see myself in either an unhappy marriage or unhappy being lonely n single. There is no medication for happiness. No solution. No reason big enough. Definitely nothing genuine to make you genuinely happy either. What are we all doing with our lives? Wasting in waiting, in some unbelievable hope? Or Moving on accepting the cynism and just treating sex as a daily need, like food. Sometimes you get great food and sometimes, distasteful. Has feeling Sexy replaced feeling Special? Has Lust taken over Love? Where is the love from our lives missing? Why do we like to believe we are the only ones who want a genuine partner and the other person in this world is incapable of giving us that? Why have we given up on relationships? On life? On love? On happiness? On content? Do they really exist or did they die the moment we all stepped out of our parents' homes. For me, it did. And for you?


P@ul@mi said...

you made me think, not just once but twice. but in ways i live in a different world and leaving the parents house has meant nothing more than pursuing a career. but yet again i would like my happy ending and yours too :)

Scribbling Girl said...

I was doing some readings in gender in the morning and read....."humans are by nature polygamous"....well that was just one line out of thousands of lines which talked of the sexual liberty among tribal originally in the Americans before Europeans inhabited to civilize them to show women can be suppressed but men are free......marriage was something out of choice then........which is what it didn't ended up as in years that followed.... good now our generation can decide weather we wanna marry or not....

Personally I strongly believe in the institution of marriage only if u can respect it....otherwise there is no need to marry....because financially one is independent....you are free to have companions all ur life.....and there is no compulsion to marry unless u feel that someone can make u feel loved all ur life......

and if indeed fairytale knights exist even if 1% then don't stop ....move ahead and take that step ......i have seen amazing married couples to believe it....I believe happiness happen to ppl who deserve it .....and I know ur one of them :)

Divaa Divine said...

for me it is just contentment and happiness for parents - mine was forgotten and buried ages ago

Jeweliot said...

"har kisi ko nahin milta yahan pyar zindagi mein" ;)

everyone is not lucky in love, and the ones who are lucky are in a long distance relationship (and unhappy) ehehe..and the ones who are very lucky.. get married. and the unlucky ones get cheated.

no one is entirely happy. there's always some shit going on in everybody's life.

and people do use sex to feel that temporary happiness. sad but true..

i'm totally against extra marital affairs.. i can't say 'to each his own' as far as EMAs are concerned. and it's not necessarily about sex.

lol @ bbc - the chat room nicknames you came up with over here

sulagna ™ said...

baby..i dont know what to wrote on this one..i sound cliched saying "its gonna work out " but there have been times i have said the same thinsg you are talking about now...it will just come around..someday..beleive me

Blasphemous Aesthete said...

'All we ever wanted is to look good naked, hoping someone could take it...

GOD save me rejection from my reflection, I want perfection

The urge to have sexual gratification has taken such a turn that people would now turn to anything, any new distraction that could lead them to momentary pleasures.
I don't know what to say. Why do I go to chat sites sometimes? I don't know. I don't even know what I do there, I ask them their fantasies? I was never good at stories.
Cheating on spouses and lovers is something that hurts the most.

Jack said...

L S L,

A frank and hard hitting post with no holds barred but factual to a large extent. Even one who has true love is likely to stray if not physically but in fantasy.

Take care

PS : No time for visits?

sawan said...

love exists.
happiness exists.
this life exist and its real.

ive been in relationships twice and ive lost both of them. so does that make me hate love? no. i am single by choice - not cos i lost the trust in love. i am single cos i need time to grow that amount of trust and love which i could share.

falling in love is easy. these days a break up is easier! but does that say that the relationship was only about sex? no! m sure anyone who has been in love atleast once, even for the sake of it would agree to me if i say that they cherished atleast one moment of their relationship and that one moment would not be sex - admit it or hide it!

i agree to most of the things wuth uve said here. people stray like dogs. most of the times, ppl are just scared, they are scared of lonliness, they need to prove to themselves that they are in love and the easiest way? :) the thought of insecurity make ppl insecure. if u trust in urself and ur capabilities, u wud never b insecure, u wud never cheat on ur love and u wud never disrespect love.

LSL, love indeed in a very confusing emotion, made so my the media, unethical conversations and immature minds. its okie, just relax and trust urself. ur instincts wud make ur life easier.

for love, cheers!

Ria said...

I loved the comment which Anil has written above...and yes i have reasons to beleive that these things do exist.

Love exists...if trust is there. Ppl still work on their relationships. Don't let these aberrations take away ur faith from these things in life.

Don't they say that good and bad r relative terms...ppl who indulge in adulteration, who treat sex just like another bodily need do not feel that they r doing something wrong....according to them its ok to be that way. Some try to justify to do what they r doing and others do it shamelessly. But not everybody thinks that way.

U still have ppl like the ones above who don't feel that way, i don't think that way. For me a relationship is still meant to be for keeps...i don't feel the need to stray or sleep with someone just bcoz my guy is not here or just coz i want to satisfy my urges.

I feel thats the difference between animals and us. We as humans are supposed to be more refined. But....not everybody is like that.

Insomaniac Junkie said...

I think its all about the choices you make. There are people too who are happy with one partner.
You are just thinking this biased on the surroundings u are living in.
World is big enough. At the end of the day everyone wants to be happy, its just the way you choose.

sanely insane said...

ok point one...can you....please introduce me to the slutty ones...pretty please :D

point two...have you won a lottery yet? if not why complain you haven't gotten the perfect partner...everyone is searching...and mostly we dont even kno what we're looking for...so don't blame the people...they are doing the best they can...or as close to best...to find their way through

Luscious Sealed Lips said...

Dear Pailami,

What we intend and what we are surrounded with are two different things!

Cheers to your happiness and mine!


Luscious Sealed Lips said...

Dear Scribbling Girl,

Marriage is after all like any other institution. You have the liberty to get admitted or now, to drop out or not, to be interested and work hard or not.

We maybe independent, but by the end of the day, we are all looking for emotional dependence and stability, which can may not be found in changing companions.


Luscious Sealed Lips said...

Dear Divaa Divine,

I hope you dig a new hole and find a big pot of happiness and true companionship in life. :)


Luscious Sealed Lips said...

Dear D,

You are so right about this. Its true. And its sad. I shall sing along the song. ;)

LOL! Those names were not even half as funny. People are getting more creative. ;)


Luscious Sealed Lips said...

Dear Sulagna,

I would love to believe you. :)


Luscious Sealed Lips said...

Dear Blasphamous,

Strange, aint it? The thought sickens me at first, and then I see the justification around it and it seems fine. Weird, where the world is going.


Luscious Sealed Lips said...

Dear Jack,

Very true. There is nothing pure truth in this world.

I will visit soon, just been very caught up. Sorry. :)


Luscious Sealed Lips said...

Dear Sawan,

It all boils down to confusing love with sex. Even though they both are human needs, they are treated differently. Getting sex maybe easier than receiving Love, today. Hence, we compromise (or not) and go in for the former in our lives and relationships.


Luscious Sealed Lips said...

Dear Ria,

I Love the innocent belief you have in Love. I guess the love inside of me is dead, which is why the world just seems so much more different to me.


Luscious Sealed Lips said...

Dear Insomniac,

Is not what surrounds you, the real world?


Luscious Sealed Lips said...

Dear Sanely Insane,

There are no 'slutty' ones.

You have indeed been judgmental about this post. It is a general observation where I am not talking about myself or whining about unhappiness, but a general observation of the world around me. And the world has not changed since I wrote the post to the day of commenting back.


sanely insane said...

i knew u'd ditch on the slutty part...hence the judgmental comment :P

ok that was a cover up in hindsight...wasn't really being judgmental..though now that i reread the comment i don't see how u cud have seen it in any other light...i was trying to give a possible explanation for doing wat ppl do and also the reason one must not lose hope :P

but there are slutty ones...damn i don't know them, thats all :( sniff

sawan said...

exactly! now tht u r smart enuf to realize that [and trust me, not many does] lets just wait for love to come :) have faith. bless u.

Som said...

There are two needs in humans, as pointed out in one of the comments: Emotional and Physical. If you are lucky enough, you find both in your partner and then you are in love. But what if you are in a long distance relationship; you either

1) make compromises for the sake of love and jerk off (phone sex) or
2)you stray but you make yourself believe that it was just for your physical needs or
3)You stray and then seeing this you dump the girl.

I guess the first and the last options are at least honest but is the second one that bad ?!! Is physical infidelity the only one .. what about if you become emotionally dependent on someone ?

At the end of the day does god anymore make a person who will satisfy all our needs .. Emotional, Intellectual and Physical ?!! Did he ever make one ?!!

That means we always make compromises in life, with our principles ... with our virtues ..

There is a proverb (may be Chinese), every woman needs 3 men .. A intellectual best friend to Talk, A strong attractive Lover and A rich Husband ;-)

So bottom-line is nobody lives happily ever after :P unless ...

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